When a Jewish couple decides to get married the first step in which they need to take is the signing of the ‘ketubah.” The ketubah is the marriage contract that the couple must sign before becoming a couple. The idea of the ketubah comes from historical times when Moses presented the convenient to the Jewish people, as they accepted God at Mount Sinai. Couples can be very creative with the design of their Ketubah by having an artist design it and making it more personalized for the couple.
Following the signing of the ketubah, you may proceed with the “bedeken”. The bedeken is the unveiling of the bride of the groom as they are now officially a married couple. The unveiling of the bride also related to a historic biblical story when Leah replaces Jacob’s chosen bride Rachel without his knowledge. When a husband unveils his bride’s veil, he is simply confirming that this is the women he chose to be his lawfully wedded wife.
Now the ceremony can begin. The bride is escorted by both her parents down the aisle, as is the groom. At that point, the couple is wed under a “chuppah,” a small shelter covered in fabric, decorated in flowers, ribbon, beads anything you like really. During the chuppah ceremony; seven blessings are recited by the rabbi in Hebrew or English. The couple can make that choose. After the couple has exchanged vows, it’s part of Jewish tradition for the groom, bride, or both the bride and groom to stomp on a wine glass, reminding the couple how fragile ones happiness truly is.
After the ceremony, the couple carries out the marriage by being alone for a little bit before the reception. However, today it’s used for more relaxing and downtime for the couple and creates more anticipation for the couple to go to the reception.
POPULAR DANCES AT A JEWISH WEDDING
There are a number of popular dances that need live music. For instance, the “hora.” The hora is when the bride and the groom are both lifted on chairs in the air by members of the wedding party. When in the air, the couple must hold on to an end of a handkerchief. However, be careful, this could become very dangerous.
The “krenzel” or “crowning” dance is the dance that honor’s the mother of the bride when her last daughter is married. The mother is seated in the middle of the room where a wreath made of flowers is crowned upon her as her last daughter dances around her.
FOOD AT A JEWISH WEDDING
Of course, just like any other tradition food is a big factor in the Jewish wedding. However, in the Jewish tradition, many Jewish people choose to only eat kosher foods. Kosher food means that a rabbi has blessed the food making the food “fit” for consumption. As a respect to your guests, it is important that you abide by their religious thoughts, values and beliefs.
JEWISH FAVORS AND INVITATIONS
Incorporating a Jewish element to your guest favors and invitations is a great way to add creative traditional ideas to your Jewish wedding. Since it is tradition for Jewish people to wear yarmulkes, or skull hat, gifting your guests with personalized skull hats is a very creative thing to do. Not only are you incorporating tradition, but you are also adding you own personal touch by maybe having your names sewn inside the yarmulkes, or your wedding date.
Printing your invitations in Hebrew is yet another way to stick to tradition but also being able to be creative by deciding the font, style and color of the text, and the type of invitation you may want to have. Having elements such as the Star of David on your wedding card is also another grand idea.